tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post1642428921531104291..comments2024-03-04T01:11:34.809-07:00Comments on Jane In Her Infinite Wisdom: Jitter(s)bugJust Janehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02861216483398553225noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-81040615727479137642012-04-06T18:30:51.861-06:002012-04-06T18:30:51.861-06:00Wonderful! It is so critical that younger kids/tee...Wonderful! It is so critical that younger kids/teens have someone to confide in that will answer them straight up. Good job by YOU.Mikehttp://perceptionisrealitycorner.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-68218766291306799862012-04-04T19:11:03.342-06:002012-04-04T19:11:03.342-06:00You did the difficult thing in discussing sex with...You did the difficult thing in discussing sex with your niece and nephew. It would have been so much easier to brush it off. Wish I had had an Aunt Jane!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01468655681800817415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-80712110609971112922012-04-04T12:14:59.705-06:002012-04-04T12:14:59.705-06:00Jane, I enjoyed reading about your directness with...Jane, I enjoyed reading about your directness with your niece and nephew. If they are not taught that it is an embarrassing topic in the first place, the chances of them being able to talk to their mate, to you, and others as they grow will continue. <br /><br />My experience with my nieces was at a much younger age, they were 7 & 8 and the 7 year old had been looking at one of my photo albums. In it, were pictures of my pregnancy, bare belly and all. She was fascinated with how the baby got "in there" and wanted to know how it happened (in detail). I turned it over to my brother and sister-in-law, and the next day she tossed me a book on how to talk to them. It was something I was not ready to tackle for them, but did so any who. I figured that honesty was the best policy, but I also had a bit younger audience! :-)k~https://www.blogger.com/profile/17308736457276683273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-77977464726659985382012-04-04T07:41:08.359-06:002012-04-04T07:41:08.359-06:00We've always gone the non-dancing route with o...We've always gone the non-dancing route with our kids, but I know some parents who are unwilling or unable to do so and it's great when kids do have a trusted adult in their lives to turn to. Regarding our tactics with our kids, it may have worked a little too well. As I've posted before, I am not such a fool as to think they tell me <i>everything</i>, but they've said specific enough things that I have no doubt they know they can tell/ask me <i>anything</i>.Masked Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08197019009052401812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-11387952120510845492012-04-04T03:26:04.776-06:002012-04-04T03:26:04.776-06:00They are lucky kids. So important to be honest wit...They are lucky kids. So important to be honest with kids. Loved your take on the prompt.Suzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05337531041006701719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-30767026234548388912012-04-04T03:26:03.567-06:002012-04-04T03:26:03.567-06:00I only could have hoped for someone like you in my...I only could have hoped for someone like you in my life when I was their age. I didn't have that one person--and it wasn't something you could just talk to Mom about. Thank God I had some really close friends I could confide in--although they weren't older--they'd listen without judging. <br /><br />Great post!!<br /><br />Cheers, Jenn<br />http://www.wine-n-chat.comJennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07559573562599754752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-39523055121103001792012-04-03T23:09:49.126-06:002012-04-03T23:09:49.126-06:00I think that is wonderful of you Jane! You told t...I think that is wonderful of you Jane! You told them straight up. <br /><br />Kathy<br />http://gigglingtruckerswife.blogspot.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11564863484894692249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-62878840948305354542012-04-03T21:28:31.507-06:002012-04-03T21:28:31.507-06:00Wonderful.:) I make it a point to answer all of my...Wonderful.:) I make it a point to answer all of my kids' questions honestly. I do not want them growing up the way I did: so ashamed of their bodies and curiosity that they can't ask questions. It's not easy to field those questions, but it's worth it. I know someday they will need someone other than me to ask too, and I hope they have someone like you in their lives by then.Sharinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-16567970454861729122012-04-03T15:47:51.976-06:002012-04-03T15:47:51.976-06:00I grew up in a very religious environment and neve...I grew up in a very religious environment and never actually had the sex talk with relatives. I'm the youngest of four, so maybe they just thought someone else had told me? Or that I'd bring it up? Or that my Health Class had covered the basics? Or that if abstinence til marriage was a must, which it was, that my future husband could go over it with me? <br /><br />It wasn't until after my first marriage fell apart that my sister took me aside and tried to have the conversation about what was/wasn't appropriate sex. <br /><br />So many mixed thoughts.<br /><br />Anyway, thanks for your story. It makes my heart hurt in many ways.Deb Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16419809243480266275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-66769141550411620242012-04-02T21:39:22.043-06:002012-04-02T21:39:22.043-06:00Oh, they have a great Aunt but I am so damn glad n...Oh, they have a great Aunt but I am so damn glad none of my nieces or nephews asked me that one and I won't even begin to tell you how long it took me to figure it out, well, let us just say my husband explained to me, now that is sad, so terribly sad and trust me I was no angel just some things go over my head LOLLucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14795342448811764481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-22497222609236641492012-04-02T21:14:42.211-06:002012-04-02T21:14:42.211-06:00Hi Jane! Glad to find your blog from Michaelsfish...Hi Jane! Glad to find your blog from Michaelsfishbowl. I'm another Minnesotan. Great story! I try to be as honest as the kids, no matter how difficult. My gradeschool-age son told me one day there was "a rumor going around school" that a boy could wear something on his (insert alternate personality here) that would keep a girl from getting pregnant. I told him that one was true. "REALLY?" he said. He was so sure it was a fable. So we talked about the many things they're called, how they work and why sometimes they don't. Then I crossed my fingers and hoped for the best.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-13657423962641867512012-04-02T21:05:32.115-06:002012-04-02T21:05:32.115-06:00Glad they have you to talk to! I hope my kids will...Glad they have you to talk to! I hope my kids will feel ok asking me about anything as well...time will tell. Remind me to tell you the story about my 'sex talk' with my parents sometime, k?cdnkarohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12300104667616840616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-35853207297295591272012-04-02T12:20:01.159-06:002012-04-02T12:20:01.159-06:00You are a great aunt, that is for sure!You are a great aunt, that is for sure!Claudia Moserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15749097943320550338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-37755182757886174462012-04-02T10:04:46.776-06:002012-04-02T10:04:46.776-06:00Great that they have some one to talk to about thi...Great that they have some one to talk to about things they need/want to know, but may not feel comfortable talking with others about.a.eyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01468719598280416330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-67574501184989340612012-04-02T07:16:46.058-06:002012-04-02T07:16:46.058-06:00What an excellent post! It reminds me of my relati...What an excellent post! It reminds me of my relationship with my much younger little sisters. I've always been open and honest because the alternative is horrifying! I do/plan to do the same with my kids. I would much rather have to learn not to blush and stammer than have them get wrong information or take some of the risks that I took.Laine Griffinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13852809605433922328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-37605923873751376942012-04-02T02:56:26.948-06:002012-04-02T02:56:26.948-06:00Great post - and what a lovely 'reward' y...Great post - and what a lovely 'reward' you have had through not dancing around the subject.Paula Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10040623635956769807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-61260391949731892852012-04-02T02:40:00.748-06:002012-04-02T02:40:00.748-06:00Dear Auntie Jane.
Again, you showed a deep level ...Dear Auntie Jane.<br /><br />Again, you showed a deep level of awareness which no doubt has helped your Niece and Nephew both to realise that the whole world isn't crazy (because maybe their parents weren't equipped to deal with such matters) and also that it is important to ask for some guidance, rather than blindly go on.<br />Well done for being so courageous as to take it on and deal with it, not dance around it or sweep it under the carpet.<br />The world needs more like you Jane.<br />You are a bright light. Thank you.<br />P.W.Peaceful Warriorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06609969596188204544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-79978981722629938992012-04-01T23:07:26.252-06:002012-04-01T23:07:26.252-06:00You definitely made the wise choice at the beginni...You definitely made the wise choice at the beginning. Children and tween/teens need to feel comfortable talking to an adult about sex. A successful dance.Gaelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05784162697113288888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-47303146081130349492012-04-01T20:45:28.881-06:002012-04-01T20:45:28.881-06:00I'm sure they are very glad to have an Aunt li...I'm sure they are very glad to have an Aunt like you. :)Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10173270765649283088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-88504794969573949932012-04-01T20:45:28.603-06:002012-04-01T20:45:28.603-06:00I'm sure they are very glad to have an Aunt li...I'm sure they are very glad to have an Aunt like you. :)Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10173270765649283088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-29918347607638744222012-04-01T20:41:04.610-06:002012-04-01T20:41:04.610-06:00Good for you! I was always really straightforward ...Good for you! I was always really straightforward with my kids-my daughters and my son. I started when they were young and no subject was ever off limits. We had lots of conversations that would have made my hubby--who wasn't nearly as comfortable as I was answering their questions--fall right over. :ODAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-14756434382006610182012-04-01T20:26:32.623-06:002012-04-01T20:26:32.623-06:00So important that they have a safe person to talk ...So important that they have a safe person to talk to about those kind of things. What a great Aunt!!Jenn and Caseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16207173478938274488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5162829547026802129.post-18525475094107027332012-04-01T19:33:16.623-06:002012-04-01T19:33:16.623-06:00I really love this story, Jane. It matters so much...I really love this story, Jane. It matters so much in this world we live in now, that our kids and I mean all the kids we love, have someone who will just shoot straight and fill all the answers with love and honesty. <br />Such lucky people to have Aunt Jane to turn to.<br /><br /> ♥Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285427147723972295noreply@blogger.com