Monday, January 11, 2010

Is This It?

*This is about female sexuality. If female orgasms offend you, stop reading now.*

Last week, the results of a survey of over 1800 women conducted by the King's College London were released to the world...

The G-spot does not exist.


OK. I'm not here to debate whether or not the G-spot exists. I can't debate it because I haven't done nearly as much er...scientific research as some of these other folks *cough*. I take issue with the fact that the results were based entirely on anecdotal data but hey! Whatever. Even physical examinations of research volunteers have never shown conclusively that the G-spot does or does not exist.

I think it's probably enough to say that for some women it does and for some women it does not. Whether its existence is by the power of suggestion is also up for debate and frankly, even if it is a figment? Who cares?! It's WORKING!

I think that's my point. Scientists are researching whether something 56% of women report having exists when what might be more helpful is researching why 43% of American women report some kind of sexual dysfunction.

Look, I'm a woman (duh). I believe it's my responsibility to know my own body and what makes it er...tick. It's also my responsibility to be able to communicate that effectively to my partners. Since I'm not sexually repressed, I'm all over it as they say. And I have to admit, I'm not convinced exactly that I have a G-spot. But I do have "spots"...lots o' spots. And I am intimately acquainted with them.

But there are a lot of women out there who don't even know where to begin to look for their spots or who to ask to help...or that they even should1. So instead of publishing a research article about how women are doomed to fail miserably at sex even though many of us are doing quite well under the assumption you've just disproved, maybe research could be more focused on the real issue at hand - the fact that otherwise healthy women can't get their O on.

1: Here's a hint...ask a lesbian. Note that in the King's College study, the lesbian/bisexual community was largely unrepresented.

1 comment:

kk said...

I can't recommend "Betty's Vaginal Barbell" enough for finding those spots.... ;)