I am perched on the most precarious of ledges.
Today has been a good day but I'm also halfway to crabby pants for a relatively silly reason. I've got a few things to share so this seems to be shaping up into a mental dump of sorts.
1) Today, I did a very grown up thing - a RESPONSIBLE THING - voluntarily. *gasp* I know, right?! This is fairly Earth-shattering but I think you all can take it.
Today, I took my car to the emissions testing center all by myself. I did not panic. And then? I mailed off my check to the Department of Revenue for my license plate renewal...7. Weeks. Early. I KNOW!
This is the part where, if you know anything about me and auto maintenance and repair, you applaud wildly.
*bowing* Thank you. Thank you very much.
2) Contributing largely to the accomplishment stated above is the fact that I've finally FINALLY understood a particularly important concept about budgeting.
Budgets are living, fluid documents. I'm somewhat strict with myself given my goal of becoming debt-free. However, each pay period, I tweak, adjust, divert funds for whatever is coming up in the near future. I roll over extra funds from the prior pay period - something that's becoming more and more frequent - and apply that to outstanding bills or put it toward extras. Extras like getting my emissions test done and paying for my car tags...a month before I'd budgeted for it. I've learned budgets are not black or white. They are guidelines that should be adhered to as much as possible all the while knowing sometimes life happens - in bad ways but in also excellent ways!
3) One of the excellent ways life happened last week in a way that impacted my budget is, not only did I realize I had enough in my budget to pay for my car maintenance early but, I also had a little extra to buy some desperately needed clothes!
I don't clothes shop often. I've never liked it. It does nothing for me except add to my already sky high anxiety. I avoid it as much as possible and have ever since I was 10. Growing up, my mother took us shopping twice a year - once for school clothes and once for summer clothes. After awhile, the summer clothes excursion fell by the wayside and clothes shopping became a once-a-year torture session.
Likewise, as an adult, I clothes shop once a year - twice at most - spending around $400 on basic necessities and calling it good. I don't donate much to Goodwill because most of what I have gets worn once a week or so until its threadbare and full of holes.
I'm dead serious. And yes, I am a girl. Just not much of a girly-girl.
Anyway! I knew part of my malaise recently was due to the fact that my winter wardrobe was meager and, frankly, pitiably hole-y. My bras were shot, panty elastic worn out and saggy, tops and bottoms reduced to two black skirts, two black pair of pants, and a smattering of black and brown tops. I knew I looked frumpy and I felt horrible about it!
But I didn't want to take money designated in the budget to paying down debt.
Then! Then the skies opened up. Acr0nym generously helped me with November dinner party expenses (both the Beaujolais Nouveau Day party and Thanksgiving) and that, in combination with my budgeted expense savings, gave me a few extra dollars - in addition to the extra I had for car tags. When the e-mail from my relied upon clothing store (Lane Bryant - whose clothes always seem to fit my freakishly long waist and my extra-wide hips as well as my short legs) came through announcing a 1-day storewide sale - spend $200 and get $100 off - I was sold. I went to the website and, in 10 minutes, added 3 new tops, 2 pairs of pants, and a new bra to my shopping cart. When I checked out, my total, with shipping and tax was $123. WOO HOO! Painless. The tops (at least) were red, deep purple, and a heathery purple. Look, Mom! I bought colors! Not all black!
*bowing* Thank you. Thank you very much.
4) I wore the red shirt today. I believe it contributed to my ability to belly laugh along with my assistant over the most horrible facial tissue EVER!!! I don't think I've belly-laughed for that long over anything in months. It felt tremendous. Note: It also might have been maniacal laughter given that we were laughing about facial tissue but, you know, at this point, laughter is laughter is laughter. I'll take it.
5) So why was I wearing crabby pants?
Dishes. Specifically dirty ones and the fact that, even though Lex is working sporadically and was napping when I came home from working a long day toward the end of a very long week during which I haven't felt particularly well, the dishes - two days old - were still sitting in the sink waiting to be washed. By hand because we don't have a dishwasher - at least, not one whose name isn't Jane apparently.
So, as I did the dishes, I was steaming a little from out my ears. And then I realized, you know, that's not fair to Lex. He doesn't actually care about a sink full of dishes and I know this about him - have known it for years. I'm the one who cares. And if it's really REALLY bugging me that he hasn't taken on more of the upkeep of the house without asking since he's been, largely, unemployed? The onus is on me.
So I got over it.
6) And that, mostly, is what's on my mind (the other HUGE thing will do for a post all its own). So, to leave you on a lovely up-note, I present you with Address is Approximate, a little video TC posted to Google+ today. A video that tickled me as only stop-motion animation can. If you've got 2 minutes, this is really wonderful stuff! My favorite part is how the other inanimate objects help to create ambiance - like the desk lamps doing their thing when he's going through a tunnel. (I'm not going to explain that. I'm going to make you curious enough to watch! HA! See what I did there?)
Address Is Approximate from The Theory on Vimeo.
And now? As Simply Frances says, much blog love to all of you! Ciao!